Audacity.

Sometimes, just being yourself, in this world, is an act of revolt.

Recently, I found myself in group therapy, getting choked up, as we read a list about boundaries. To me, it read like a list of rights, freedoms that were being granted to me and acknowledged in that moment. It was overwhelming.

One of the things I’m working on is the amount of guilt and shame I feel, when I can logically say that I shouldn’t. It’s what I know in my heart and mind, but my spirit has been worn down by experience. I can believe in all my power, but unless I feel it, it’s difficult to act on.

When I do act like myself, and share things with others, that I truly feel, an opinion, belief, or fact that I know when they may not, I often experience guilt and shame for speaking up. Who am I to do or say something? Who am I to have an opinion? Who am I to be an authority on a subject? (EVEN WHEN I TRULY AM) How dare I have the audacity?!

The conditions are unacceptable, and I don’t like myself much when I accept them.

Why should I feel guilty for existing and breathing and having experiences and opinions? Others may not agree with me, but it doesn’t mean that I’m wrong – that something is inherently wrong with me.

IT’S A DIFFICULT MESSAGE TO UNLEARN.

And it’s not a coincidence that SO MANY WOMEN are out there talking about worth right now…


Here’s the list:

A boundary is the:

– Emotional and physical space between you and another person

– Demarcation of where you end and another begins and where you begin and another ends.

– Limit or line over which you will not allow anyone to cross because of the negative impact of its being crossed in the past.

– Established set of limits over your physical and emotional well-being which you expect others to respect in their relationship with you.

– Emotional and physical space you need in order to be the real you without the pressure from others to be something that you are not.

– Emotional and/or physical perimeter of your life which is or has been violated when you were emotionally, verbally, physically and/or sexually abused.

– Healthy emotional and physical distance you can maintain between you and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed and/or dependent.

– Appropriate amount of emotional and physical closeness you need to maintain so that you and another do not become too detached and/or overly independent.

– Balanced emotional and physical limits set on interacting with another so that you can achieve an interdependent relationship of independent beings who do not lose their personal identity, uniqueness and autonomy in the process.

– Clearly defined limits within which you are free to be yourself with no restrictions placed on you by others as how to think, feel or act.

– Set of parameters which make you a unique, autonomous and free individual who has the freedom to be a creative, original, idiosyncratic problem solver.


How does this read for you? Do you ever feel audacious just for being yourself?

Definitive Post: CBD

CBD is everywhere right now, and so is the (mis)information surrounding it. 

It seems like no one understands much, and the industry is taking advantage of the buzz, adding it to everything from coffee to lip gloss.

It sounds promising, but so frustrating to try to figure out everything – form, potency, legality, extraction method, purity, dosage, regulation. Where does one even start?! I get frustrated with it all, because none of the labeling is easily comparable, making it almost impossible to make sense across the market. Oh, but I have tried! And I’m here for you, my friends!

If you’re like, “Jen, I trust you on this, just help me get the goods” then skip the rest and go get it here.

I’m sharing this Q & A straight from the website of Frida Botanicals, developed by Dr. Ginevra Liptan, a doctor with fibromyalgia, who founded the Frida Center for Fibromyalgia. 


What is CBD?
Cannabidiol, or CBD, is a non-intoxicating component of the cannabis plant with enormous therapeutic potential. Researchers are currently studying the effects of CBD on a wide range of conditions including chronic pain, insomnia, PTSD, anxiety, epilepsy, and more.

Do I need a medical card to buy or use CBD?
The CBD we use to make our products comes from hemp, which means that no medical card is required.

Are CBD products legal in all 50 states?
Yes, as long as they are derived from hemp, not marijuana, and contain less than 0.3% THC. The products sold from this website are considered nutritional supplements or personal care products according to the FDA.

What is the difference between hemp and marijuana?
Although both hemp and “marijuana” are technically variants of the Cannabis sativa plant, there are significant differences between them. Hemp is considered “industrial” under current regulations, and is defined as having less than 0.3% THC. Marijuana generally refers to cannabis sativa plants that have a high concentration of THC, and the word stems from the recreational use of THC-rich cannabis for the purpose of getting “high.”

Will CBD make me feel high?
Unless doses above our label recommendations are taken, there should be no euphoric effects. “Relaxing but not intoxicating” is how some of Dr. Liptan’s patients have described it.

What kind of testing and analysis is performed on your products?
All our CBD products are third-party tested for the 3 Ps: purity, potency, and pesticides, with results published on our website for each batch.

How is your CBD extracted?
Our CBD is extracted from the hemp plant using a supercritical CO2 process. Although it can be costlier and requires skill and experience to do correctly, extraction using CO2 is a safer and more reliable method for obtaining pure hemp oil than using solvents, which then have to be filtered out. This means that we are able to offer you one of the cleanest forms of CBD extract possible.

Will CBD help me with my (insert illness here)?
Due to FDA regulations, we cannot make claims about whether or not our products can help with specific ailments. Learn more about the science of CBD and research on various conditions here.

Will CBD extract influence the results of a drug test?
Most drug tests screen for the psychoactive compound THC, not Cannabidiol (CBD). However, full-spectrum hemp extracts may contain trace amounts of THC, so could cause a positive result when screening urine and blood specimens, especially when taken at high doses.

Is it safe?
According to the World Health Organization’s November 2017 report, CBD exhibits no abuse or dependence potential.

Will CBD interact with my other medications?
At high doses of CBD, it is possible that drug-herb interactions can occur. At lower doses of CBD, as suggested on our label, it is unlikely that significant drug-herb interactions will occur. However, always check with your primary health care practitioner before using this or any new supplement.


Still have more questions about the science of it all? Here are some links to appease your fierce quest for knowledge.

http://www.drliptan.com/blog/2018/8/29/the-science-of-cbd-for-fibromyalgia

http://www.drliptan.com/blog/2018/9/16/frequently-asked-questions-about-cbd

Information on benefits for many conditions.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3820295/

http://www.icrs.co/

The Misunderstandings…

Knowing that CBD oil and hemp oil can be the same thing, but that hemp seed oil and CBD oil are not, and that variants of and everything in between exist, will help you. How? Because there are a million products out there that contain very little CBD, and are labeled deceivingly. This is your warning. It’s awful when I hear that someone got some crappy product thinking it would be beneficial, but they’re really getting a lot of additives, and an itty bitty bit of CBD, or just plain hemp seed oil.

As for my personal experiences, I am thrilled to have found how much CBD helps me. My symptoms are less severe across the board, experiencing less flu-like achiness, less post exertion recovery time, better mood regulation with anxiety, depression, and irritability. I’ve actually been able to go off of one medication that helped with nerve pain, but I didn’t want to be on because of the side effects. I take less medication over all, and have less dyscognition. All of this stuff adds up a greatly meaningful amount, and it’s beneficial in healing, unlike prescription medications that just cover up symptoms. CBD is one of the main tools in my arsenal now, and it’s here to stay.

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